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WHAT
BRINGS
YOU
HERE?

 

WHAT BRINGS YOU HERE?

Some people have a clear sense of what they are seeking out therapy for, I have listed some examples of these below, but sometimes we don't 'know', we just know something isn't right, something is 'off'.  Therapy can help you find your way to exploring or clarifying your unique experience. It's OK not to know.

RELATIONSHIPS

Relationships are such a large part of our life.  We have relationships with our family, friends as well as work colleagues and it's the quality of our relationships that can make for a contented life or one full of difficulties.


Therapy can help you take a look at your relationships with the help of some tools and techniques.


Therapy will also help with the most important relationship of all, the understanding of the relationship with yourself.

ADDICTIONS

What starts out as an enjoyable activity that initially helps to make us feel better can sometimes turn into a compulsion which we may come to realise we are having trouble controlling or  stopping. We often realise too late and the negative issues have become more evident to us and the people around us.

We can get addicted to anything, gambling, shopping, food intake, alcohol, drugs, porn, work, not to mention our devices and social media.

My approach is, not why the addiction but why the need in the first place. What made you need the distraction, the immersion or 'pain relief'?

Therapy can help you to understand and resolve the need and in turn the addictions may no longer be necessary.

ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION

From time to time life presents matters for us to be anxious or depressed about, but for some of us, anxiety and depression can escalate and engulf us into a darkness.  It can stop us from functioning.

Hiding away from people or not attending events or finding ourselves frozen and fearful whilst trying to put on a brave face for the world is exhausting and can lead to panic attacks, chronic fatigue or a desire to remove ourselves from the world and people, even from people we know care and love us.  


One approach within therapy is to  work with anxiety and depression by helping people to get in tune with their bodies to understand what is happening and why, and then explore ways to heal, recover and move into the light.

GRIEF

Grief is about loss, often but not always about losing people. When someone close to us dies it can feel devastating, unbearable or 'too much'.


We can also suffer from grief over anything that comes to an end such as a job, a friendship, a relationship even a change to our own identity from divorce, children leaving home or starting retirement.

For most of us, this natural period of grieving will take its time and move us slowly to a place of acceptance and we will, once again, be able to enjoy our life and withstand the loss. 

For some of us though, this natural process gets stuck and we find ourselves unable to manage the heartbreak, shock or devastation the loss of someone or something has had on us. Maybe the loss was sudden, unexpected or accidental. Maybe the loss happened at a time when we were trying to deal with other difficult things, there are many reasons why grief may not flow naturally within us.

Therapy can help people with processing grief in a healthy and natural way by working slowly and carefully, releasing the sadness, working through what the loss means and finally finding a peaceful release from the painful after effects of loss and navigate the way into a new, albeit different life.

ABUSE

A difficult word to use or apply to oneself but we now live in a world that more clearly understands the complex and nuanced elements that constitute abuse. 


There is so much more in the way of identification of these harmful dynamics that people are easier able to understand what is happening to them or to others,


This helps to bring people into therapy to get free from the abuse or to free themselves from the detrimental after effects which can last for many years.

There are so many different types of abuse, financial, emotional, physical and sexual to name a few. All can have devastating effects on our capacity for joy and happiness.

The treatment for these traumatic experiences is slow and careful and involves healing and understanding the dynamic of power and agency. 

AND THEN THERE'S LIFE IN GENERAL

Life can be messy at times. We may have a difficult decision to make, or find ourselves confused about what is happening or what we need to do next. 

Therapy can help to clarify and explore your everyday problems. A few sessions may be all you need to download, be heard and speak freely without judgement so the next steps become clear for you. There is no problem too small.